You Don’t Have to Feel Lonely
Hey friend! This post is part 3 of my Healing Through Creative Communion series—where I explore ways to process life and heal through creativity with God. If this one resonates with you, feel free to explore the other posts in the series!
As an introvert, alone time is something I genuinely enjoy. I’d probably categorize myself as more of an extroverted introvert though—I love to hang out, and often, but my battery can drain pretty fast.
You’d think that someone who doesn’t mind being alone wouldn’t really experience loneliness, but it definitely happens. What I’ve learned over the years is that loneliness isn’t always a “lack of people to spend time with” issue—but it’s also not always a heart issue either.
What I find interesting about my relationship with God is that the more I get to know Him, the more I see both His supernatural side and His very practical side. I’d like to think I’m wired the same—and after all, He is my Father.
When you struggle with being religious or going through the motions with God, it’s easy to automatically jump to conclusions about what’s wrong when something feels off. That’s why constant communion with Jesus is so vital. There have been times I’ve gone to the Lord frustrated about something, and He’s told me I literally just need to eat—because it’s 2pm, I skipped breakfast, and I’ve been running around with my kids all day. This happens more often than I’d like to admit, and I’m working on it! Other times, I bring a frustration to Him, He takes me digging into the depths of my heart, and I realize there’s something more at the root of it all.
Loneliness works the same way.
You’ve probably heard those sad quotes or songs about feeling alone in a crowded room. That happens because sometimes loneliness isn’t external—it’s internal. A heart issue. But I never want to discount the practical side either—God created us to be in community.
Scripture tells us “it’s not good for man to be alone,” and while that is primarily about marriage it can apply to other relationships (Genesis 2:18). We’re instructed not to forsake gathering together (Hebrews 10:25). Iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). And so on.
Sometimes nothing is wrong on the inside—you’ve just been isolated. Sitting at home every day. Working remotely. Leaving church quickly. Only interacting with people through social media (which is a poor substitute for the real thing). If you’re not allowing community to be cultivated—if you’re not being intentional about connection—it’s no surprise you might feel lonely.
God does lead us through seasons of solitude and wilderness with Him. But those seasons always have a purpose—to draw closer to Him. Too often I’ve seen people (myself included) assume God is calling us “away with Him,” when in reality He’s been nudging us outward—toward the people He knows we’ll need in that season.
There is an occasion for everything,
and a time for every activity under heaven
Ecclesiastes 3:1 CSB
So if you’ve been feeling lonely—especially during a time when gatherings and family get-togethers tend to increase—ask yourself: Where is this coming from? No matter the answer, God doesn’t want to leave you there. If He truly is calling you into solitude, you’ll feel deeply satisfied. But if He’s not, it’s time to stop sitting in self-pity and start making connections.
No one is going to beat down your door—that would be illegal (LOL). Go take the first step, with the Holy Spirit leading the way.
As a quick reminder, here are the steps to enter into a time of creative communion with God:
Remove distractions and settle into rest.
Meditate on the Lord by reading His Word and playing instrumental worship music to remain at rest. Pray as you’re led but resist striving.
Receive from the Lord—ask Him what He wants you to create with Him.
Create with Him and pay attention to anything He says or shows you during your time with Him.
If the Lord has you in a season of solitude, find your comfort in Him. Create with Him often, using the steps above for creative communion.
The prompt below is for those who feel the nudge to step out of isolation and connect with the right people.
Creative Prompt
Do something creative with at least one friend or family member. It could be going for a walk at sunrise or sunset and take photos. My friends and I love BYOC (Bring Your Own Craft) hangouts—we each bring something we’ve been wanting to work on and just talk, eat, and laugh.
You could also look for a local event that includes an activity you enjoy and invite someone you know—or go solo with the intention of connecting with someone new.
If you’d like to share how God has been nudging you toward community or connecting with others (or the creative activity you chose to do), I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at giselle@creatinghallelujahs.com or message me on Instagram @creatinghallelujahs. I check both regularly, and everything stays confidential unless you give permission to share.
